What is intuition? The feeling that you have deep inside, a deep knowing in what is right for you. That feeling is intuition. But how do you know when or even how to listen to it? Well, let’s talk…
Cambridge Dictionary defines intuition as “an ability to understand or know something without needing to think about it or use reason to discover it, or a feeling that shows this ability.
Have you ever had moments in your life where things were seemingly falling apart around you, but somehow you just knew deep inside that it was going to be ok?
Or a time when you had no doubt that something was going to fall into place in your life?
Intuition Is Unique To You
We all have the ability to listen to our intuition and it can be different for everyone. Some people have it in their stomach, a “gut feeling.” Some feel it in their heart, while others feel it in deep in their soul.
Either way, intuition can be quite strong and loud at times. One of the lessons in life is learning how to listen to it.
Some people are born with a strong sense of intuition and are able to carry it well into adult-hood. While for others, it can take a lifetime of lessons to strengthen their intuition.
I think life experiences can be one of the best teachers in learning to listen to our intuition. And this is not to say it comes with age. Some people experience very hard life lessons in their teens or younger.
It’s all about what we choose to do with those experiences, and how we choose to learn and grow.
Why is this important, you ask?
Intuition has the ability to get us through some very rough times in life. It is something we can rely on within ourselves to know that we can make it through anything.
For me, learning how to listen to my intuition was no easy task. But once I discovered how, it has gotten me through some very dark times in life.
So let me share with you how it happened for me.
The Economic Crash
I was raised by a single mother and she worked extremely hard to provide for our family. In 2006 (when I was a senior in high school) she was able to buy a home for us.
Our very own home! Seeing how hard my Mom worked for so many years, and it finally paying off was one of the best feelings in the world.
We lived in our home for a little over three years, but sometimes things happen in life that we don’t understand at the time or aren’t prepared for. Unfortunately, when the economy crashed in 2008 it really hit our family hard.
Despite all of my Mom’s efforts to keep our home, in the end, we lost it. That’s a whole other story for another time, but we were forced to move out within a week.
We were devastated, it really crushed all of us but I think it hit my Mom the most. She had worked so hard and it broke my heart to see her so sad.
It wasn’t just about the home. It was also the feeling like you’re finally getting a leg up in life, then it gets taken away. Life can be rough.
I wish I could say things got better from there, but for a while it seemed to get worse. We lived with my Nana for a few months. Thankfully we had family to stay with.
A few months later I helped my Mom find us a home to rent and we moved in.
Although we were happy to have a place of our own again, it was very hard for my Mom. It’s hard when bills pile up but our salaries don’t. What can we do but keep pushing forward?
Not long after we lost our home, we lost our car too. So for a while we drove around in one of my Tia’s old vans that she let us borrow.
As time went on, we did what we could as a family to stick together. We just had to keep moving forward as best we could.
I did what I could to help my Mom but I was also in college at that time. What else is new?
My Mom always pushed for me to complete my schooling because she wanted a better future for me.
That is another sacrifice she made for me. She would rather me stay in school and pass all my classes than to work a full time job. I am so blessed to have her.
About a year later, in 2010, we were in a position to finally purchase a car, but it had to be one with no monthly payment because we just couldn’t afford that.
So my Mom and I decided to take a trip up to Phoenix, Arizona to see if we could find a good deal on a car. My Mom had a few places in mind that she wanted to take a look at so we figured the best thing would be for us to spend a night in Phoenix so we could get an early start in car shopping.
The night we got to Phoenix we were presented with another hurdle. The hotel we had booked was so horrible and we quickly realized why it was for a cheap price. There were cigarette stains on the furniture and it smelled so bad!
My Mom was like, “We can’t stay here.” So we left. We found another hotel down the street, but of course it was a bit pricier.
That night while getting ready for bed a flood of anxiety must’ve come over my poor Momma because she just started freaking out. She was worried and stressed beyond her limits.
Worried about finances and if we were doing the right thing to drive all the way to Phoenix for a car. If it didn’t work out our trip would just be a waste of money.
I was listening to my Mom and all of a sudden out of nowhere I had this calm feeling come over me and I said to her, “Mom it’s going to be ok, I know this is going to work out, I just know it.”
That was the moment I learned to listen to my intuition, that I truly realized how strong it is.
The Blue Nissan
Beyond any reason of a doubt I just knew deep inside my soul, with all that I am, it was meant to be.
That was it. I had no worries, no fears, I knew we were going to have a car that very next day. And you know what…WE DID.
We found a 2007 Nissan Altima for a really great price. It was making a little noise when we drove it but the owners kindly offered to fix it for us. After it was fixed they drove the car down to Tucson for us that next weekend.
There were still a couple of issues with the car after that but my Mom got them fixed quickly and the car lasted us a long time.
Before I graduated from Community College my Mom and Stepdad gave me the car as a gift. One of the best gifts I’ve ever received and I am so grateful to this day.
Great Times With Sally
I kept the car, which I named Sally hehe, until 2017 when Eric and I sold it. It was still in pretty good condition, but we didn’t need it and felt it could be good for someone else.
Sally the little blue Nissan stayed in our family for nearly 10 years. Honestly, I cried when we sold the car. It surprised me, I thought why am I crying over a car?
But then I thought about all the memories.
A little after we bought the car my Mom and I took a mother-daughter trip to California, and it’s what we drove for Eric’s first trip to Disneyland. It was the car I packed my things in when I first moved out of my parent’s house, and there are so many other great memories.
It was everything that surrounded the car, how we got it, how we kept it, and how many times I was thankful to have transportation to safely get me around town.
Not to mention my parents gave me the gift of not having a car payment for a few years and that within itself is a blessing.
A Turning Point
For whatever reason, from the moment we bought the car, it felt like a turning point for us.
Not that things went perfectly smooth from there on out, because that’s not reality, but I always think back to that moment in the hotel room with my Mom.
From deciding to listen to my strong sense of intuition and knowing that it was all going to work out. Sally the blue Nissan was a symbol of growth within myself and strength of my intuition.
From that point on, I realized how important intuition can be when making tough decisions in life. It can really help us get through rough times that seem to have no end.
A Higher Power
Prior to us going to Phoenix to buy the car and while going through a very rough patch in life, I slowly opened up to the fact that there is a higher power, greater than myself looking out for me.
This belief can be different for everyone but I know that higher power as God. Once I began to strengthen my belief in God and realize that there is more to life than just surviving, my perspective in life began to change.
The moment I decided to listen to my intuition, I truly believe was also a moment I learned to let things go and know that God has a plan for me, as well as my family.
It wasn’t a feeling that life owed us something, but rather a feeling that it was going to be ok.
I also look back at that moment as a reminder, a reminder that my intuition will never fail me if only I choose to listen.
Trust me, I know it’s easier said than done. I still worry, stress, and have anxiety about things. But it’s in big moments like this when my intuition takes over, and God is trying to help steer me in a direction that not even I can see.
When life gets overwhelmingly rough take the time to listen to that inner feeling, that nudge, that intuition. It’s trying to speak to you and help guide you.
Ignoring our intuition is like ignoring a part of ourselves. It’s who we are, that deep sense of self that knows what’s right even when the world or our minds might be telling us different.
When was the last time you had a strong feeling and just went with it?
Also, just because you listen to your intuition and things don’t work out how you think they will doesn’t mean it didn’t work out at all. Everything in life has its timing.
We were devastated when we lost our home in 2009, but life has changed so much since then and we’ve all learned so much.
That experience is what taught me to listen to my intuition and get closer to God. Had we not gone through those times, and lost so much what would I have learned?
I’m not sure but I do know that everything happens for a reason. And I truly believe that there is always something we can learn and grow from with experiences in life that seem so unbearable at the time.
Listening to my intuition is also what helped us make the move from another city. Moving from Tucson to Chandler was not easy for Eric and I.
We were faced with many trials to the point where it felt like life was telling us to give up, it wasn’t going to happen, and we were meant to stay in our small town forever. But I never gave up.
I knew deep within that this is what was meant for us. 3 years later I rediscovered my passion for writing, started a blog, and Eric is in college for his dream job.
We have still continued to grow and learn so much. Our relationship and bond grew stronger when we moved because all we could rely on was each other, and we were determined to make our move a successful one.
Intuition has a way of not letting life push you around. It reminds me of that quote from the movie Mulan, “No matter hard the wind howls, the mountain cannot bow to it.” Intuition can see above and beyond the noise of daily life.
Listening to your intuition is really what true love is because you are telling yourself that you are worthy. You can trust how you feel and the decisions that you make. You are very much capable of navigating the rough waters of life.
Take The Time To Listen
Trust yourself, no matter what anyone else tells you. When you know your intuition and your intuition knows you, nothing in life seems impossible.
This is a reminder for me too. It can be easy to flow with the waves that come in our daily lives and feel overwhelmed. But when we come back to ourselves and check in, that can help us to calm our minds and take the time to listen.
What is your intuition telling you right now?
What is something you feel without a doubt?
Do you have experiences in life you can think back to where you know your intuition was trying to tell you something?
Take some time for yourself and listen. Listen to that deep intuition and feel special because it’s yours. No one else feels intuition the way you do and that is one of the things that makes you so special.
If you have a hard time shutting your mind off you can maybe try things like meditation, reading, or listening to soft music.
I have found that when something calms my body is when I can calm my mind. For me, yoga really helps with this, because my mind can be like Speedy Gonzales all over the place so I really have to work on this daily.
Create a space that’s just for you, within yourself, so you can get to know your intuition.
Listen to and love yourself, because you my friend, are beyond worthy of living a life that brings you true joy.