How To Have A Stress-Free Christmas With Your Partner
December 14, 2018
The Holidays are a wonderful time of year full of family, friends, food, love and laughter. But along with all of those amazing things, it can also bring along some stress. Here is how to have a stress-free Christmas with your partner and the ones you love.
I heard on the radio the other day that one of the main things couples fight about during the holidays is how much to spend. This can be tough, especially if you have kids. First, you worry about gifts for your kids.
Then, you have extended family members to worry about, from parents, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews. Depending on your family traditions you may have a long list of gifts to get.
On top of all that or somewhere in between that list is your partner. The one you want to get an extra special gift for, but then all these questions come up. Ok when can I go get it? How much should I spend? What if they get me a gift that’s more then what I spent? Then I’ll feel bad.
It can be a little complicated if you live together too. How am I gona go without them noticing? Where am I gona hide it? How can I get their gift without them noticing in our bank account?
Aggghh! I’m already stressed with all these questions! But….I have a solution.
The first Christmas Eric and I spent together we did go all out. He bought me this beautiful dark green purse…oh I loved it. And I bought him a watch, wallet, and a belt. However, it was stressful because we were still getting to know each other. And I’m pretty sure my purse was more than the three gifts I got him.
Not that it’s a competition, because it shouldn’t be. But you want your partner to know that you would spend just as much on them as they would on you. Sometimes it’s hard because you don’t know what they want, but feel you should know. Or because of your finances and the certain budget that you have, or many other things.
Christmas shouldn’t have to feel so stressful!
The next few years after our first Christmas, we established a budget for one another and would only get gifts within that budget. That worked ok but there was still the matter of when to go shopping, beating the crowds at the mall while the other stays home Knowing! you’re getting their gift, and where to put it in the house so they won’t find it.
2 years ago we sat down and had a talk about gifts. There was something we’d both been really wanting but it was expensive. So, instead of individual gifts, we decided to save for one big gift.
We’d been wanting to do a juice detox and were eating really healthy so this was the perfect gift for us that year.
It felt so good to ditch the crowds and stress. We started saving a few months before Christmas and this made it so much simpler because we already knew what we were going to be getting. When Christmas rolled around all we did was hit the Amazon order button and bam! That was our Christmas shopping for each other.
We still use it for 3-day juice detoxes and whenever I’m in the mood for a juice in the morning for breakfast. It’s nice to have and we’ve gotten a lot of use out of it.
The no hassle, stress-free gift idea was a hit for us. We loved it so much that we decided to make it a tradition.
Last year we gifted ourselves with a set of pots and pans. Our old ones were in pretty bad shape. They were a Rachel Ray set from Walmart, those lasted a few years but it was definitely time for them to retire. The non-stick coating was coming off, they were warped at the bottom, and things were cooking unevenly. It just made cooking a nightmare so it was time for an upgrade!
I did some research in an attempt to find healthier pots and pans to cook with. Many studies have shown that the non-stick coating used on a lot of pans can cause health problems. If you’d like to read more information for yourself you can click the links here, here, and here.
I found GreenPan, which is a brand that makes healthier cookware. They do use a non-stick coating for their pans but, they are made differently without the harmful chemicals. Plus they were within our budget because a lot of the healthier brands or materials can be quite expensive.
Luckily we purchased this right before Christmas and they were on sale, so that was awesome! I don’t know if they still sell the whole set, but we purchased them here.
I love to cook so this was so exciting for me. Eric cooks too but I think he was more excited about eating all the good food I’ve been able to make.
Now, here we are with Christmas 2018 quickly approaching. Our gift for each other this year will be a Spa day and couples massage.
I found an excellent offer on Groupon. We are both looking forward to some much needed rest and relaxation. Not only do we have our gift taken care of, but we’ve got a massage to look forward also! No stress…sign me up!
I think the biggest thing for us was talking together about what we both liked and wanted. We work together for one big gift and in a way I feel it brings us closer during the holidays because it’s a mutual decision and we aren’t stressed about a separate budget.
If you don’t live with your partner or are in a long distance relationship, some ideas could be picture frames with lots of photos or a picture collage. Maybe you could work on a scrap book together with fun memories pasted inside. For long distance maybe a stack of post cards, this way you can surprise one another throughout the year. I think a couples massage is a great gift too, no matter your situation or living status.
During this time of year we can put so much emphasis on gifts that we forget the true meaning of being with loved ones. Not to mention there are many other times throughout the year to get gifts like…Birthdays!
Just because it’s how we’ve “always” done it, doesn’t mean that’s how it has to be.
As for gifts for family, my parents and I have slowly stopped buying gifts for Christmas. Since we don’t live close it just means that much more that we get to spend the time together. Plus we just all pitch in to make some amazing food like pozole, tamales, cookies, and more!
Memories and laughter will always mean more than the amount spent for a gift. So I hope you find this helpful and can hopefully have less stress about gifts for your partner and family this Christmas.
No stress leaves room for being grateful, thankful, and to be in the moment of sharing special times with the ones we love most.